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Shut Down the Fear of Success Pt !

Is it ok to be successful? Now and then I love to ask people this question. As a person of faith, I am always amazed how many Christians have a tough time answering that question without qualifying their answer. Many of my more secularly minded friends were less likely to try and qualify their answers. I will talk about that in another article. Second question; How do you define success? One of the leading fears I discovered while working on The No Fear Entrepreneur, was the fear of success. I had heard about this, and […]

6 Traits of People Who Fear Rejection

Did you know there are at least six markers of someone who struggles with the Fear of Rejection? Here is a little self-assessment for those of us who struggle with the Fear of Rejection. A word of caution! Read with the idea of gaining perspective that will help you grow. Please try to avoid beating yourself up if some of these feel a little close to home. Phoniness: Many people who are afraid of rejection develop a carefully choreographed life. Fearing rejection, people will often live behind a mask. This type of angst can make […]

How to Overcome the Fear of Failure

  Did you know one of the most powerful ways we can push back the fear of failure is to read about and observe how others have overcome this game-stopping fear, glean the lessons they learned, and apply them to our life as appropriate? Did you know? • Michael Jordan missed more than half of the shots he took. “I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my […]

How to Overcome Fear of Failure Part 1

Failure can stir up feelings of disappointment, anger, sadness, regret, frustration, disappointment, and confusion. Underneath this fear is a deeper fear of shame. People who have a fear of failure are motivated to avoid failing, not because they cannot manage the underlying emotions of disappointment, anger, and frustration that accompany such experiences, but because failing makes them feel a profound sense of shame. Indicators for Fear of Failure 1. You worry about your ability to go after your dreams. 2. You worry about what others think of you. 3. You feel if people knew you […]

4 Tactics That Will Kill Fear!

Self-observation can be a great use of your time if it leads to positive things and not into self-flagellation. I’ve spent a significant portion of my working life guiding people through self-observation. In that time, I have discovered far too many people on the edge of a breakthrough in their personal life, their relationships, or their business but who squander the opportunity by over-focusing on self-doubt and fear. The thing that surprises me to this day is that many times they are completely unaware of how their self-talk defeats them. Here is how it usually […]

4 Actions You Can Take Overcome Fear

  “Many of our fears are tissue-paper-thin, and a single courageous step would carry us clear through them,” Brendan Francis. Here are some steps I adapted from The Art of Manliness: 29 Days to a Better Man: Conquer Fear. Change Your Perspective On Fear Fear is only negative if you think it is. Fear is a natural process that if left unchecked will cause us to live timid, restricted lives. Truthfully, in life, there is zero growth without risk. Instead of pushing back fear as an all-consuming, nerve-racking experience, see it as an adventure, a […]

How to Handle Criticism – Abraham Lincoln

During his presidency, Abraham Lincoln was greatly respected and greatly reviled. Blamed for plunging this nation into a civil war, he was the president people loved to hate. Those who opposed his views regarding the war and slavery, as well as his efforts to keep them united, were vocal and uninhibited in denouncing him. One day during one of the darkest periods of his presidency, Lincoln was walking down a street near the Capitol in Washington when an acquaintance caught up with him. As they walked, the man brought up the subject of the growing […]

9 Traits of Resilient People

“Plus estem voius.” Latin for, There is more in you than you know. Ever wondered what you could do to increase your odds of winning the race of life, overcoming personal trauma, or pushing through obstacles that could be holding you back? I believe the key is tapping into the strength that lies within you. That key is resilience. One definition of resilience is the ability to withstand, adapt to, or rebound from, extreme challenges or adversity. I have spent a good part of my life working with clients who have had to deal with […]

Six Steps to Getting Unstuck

  One foot in front of the other All that we have is each other One foot in front of the other Walk the Moon Have you ever felt stuck? You started off the year with new goals and refreshed dreams somewhere along the way you became distracted, bogged down, and may be disengaged. I have experienced seasons like that in my life. It wasn’t like I intended to get stuck or drift off course, but it happened. If this sounds familiar you have only three choices: Live in denial and pretend like everything is […]

Crisis Leadership & Mass Shootings

To me, this image is the most powerful photo from the high school shootings in Florida, a mom, most likely a Roman Catholic who received her ashes earlier in the day is shown both terrified and comforting as she and others attempt to grasp what is unfolding. How many of you asked yourself something like, “What would I do in a situation like that?” Here are some tips that I have learned over the years in my work as an International Crisis Response Specialist. Crisis leadership is more about who you are than what you […]