“It is a luxury to be understood.” Ralph Waldo Emerson February is traditionally a month that focuses on love and relationships. Over the next couple of weeks, I will be featuring some of my most read articles on relationships. Building a relationship and being married is a team sport; you either win together or lose together. […]
Intimacy
10 Rules for Fighting Fair
Have you ever been at a party and overheard a couple say, “Oh, we never fight!” Don’t believe them! In this article I will show you ten rules for fighting fair. Couples fight! We will be married 47 years this August, and we have had our fair share of fights. As a matter of fact, we had a […]
A Man’s Guide To Valentine’s Day Shopping
Want to build a happy, resilient relationship? If you answer is yes, then continue to read. We are into February, and we all know that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. So guys, for heaven’s sake, get your shopping done before Feb. 14. If you wait too late, the roses will be wilted, […]
Shades of Grey or Shades of Love – Be A Better Lover.
(c) 2015 John Thurman Shades of Grey or Shades of Love: How to be a Better Lover John Thurman M.Div., M.A., LPCC It is sometimes tough to love someone else. It is even pretty difficult to love your family. One middle-aged married man told his wife that if she loved him, she would have married […]
Shades of Grey-Shades of Love: Part 4, Cultivating Romance
Shades of Love 4: Lovers Cultivate Romance By John Thurman Sex Begins in the Kitchen is a fun and informative book that my friend Dr Kevin Leman wrote several years ago. His second book on marital intimacy is called Sheet Music. Both of which are still in print. I encourage couples to add these books […]
Shades of Grey Shades of Love – Five Types of Intimacy
(c) 2015 John Thurman Jenny & Hugh Shades of Love # 3 By John Thurman What is intimacy? One definition of intimacy is that it is an act or a familiar expression serving as a token of familiarity, affection, and love. I believe as a culture we have lost some of the important components of […]
Shades of Grey – Shades of Love Part 2
(C) 2012 John Thurman Shades of Grey-Shades of Love Part 2 John Thurman “It is a luxury to be understood.” Ralph Waldo Emerson Building a relationship and being married is a team sport; you either win together or lose together. One of the keys to developing intimacy is communication. Two-way communication that is based […]
Shade of Grey-Shades of Love
Shades of Grey rolls out this weekend. The book series took the world by storm, and I am sure the movie will do the same. But wait a minute. One of the foundational principles of building and repairing a relationship is to understand the foundations of intimacy. It is not about technique, positions, or power, […]
5 Hot Tips for Your Relationships
Marriage and serious relationships are some of the toughest endeavors that any two humans can engage. When a couple begins their journey they are fueled with hopes and dreams, but within the first year those hopes can sometime lead to despair and dreams to nightmares.. Here are six hot tips that can keep you moving […]
Shades of Grey, Shades of Love: 4 Ways to Cultivate Romance
Sex Begins in the Kitchen is a fun and informative book that my friend Dr. Kevin Leman wrote several years ago. His second book on marital intimacy is called Sheet Music. Both of which are still in print. I encourage couples to add these books to their reading list. Kevin has an uncanny ability to […]