Have you ever been at a party and overheard a couple say, “Oh, we never fight!” Don’t believe them! In this article I will show you ten rules for fighting fair. Couples fight! We will be married 47 years this August, and we have had our fair share of fights. As a matter of fact, we had a […]
Resilient Marriages
6 Benefits of Having Humor in Your Relationship
Cheap ways to strengthen your marriage by adding humor to your reationship. Several years ago, my wife and I had come to an impasse in our relationship. I was detached and living in my career; something men often do, and my wife was into other things. I wish I could tell you that I suggested […]
Meaningful Intimacy, Want More?
Have you ever blown it the arena of intimacy in your marriage? I have. There have been times when I have been a knuckle-dragging, selfish, and ignorant Neanderthal. I am thankful for my wife, who has extended grace as we have spent most of our 46 years together in a learning mode. In this post, […]
5 Valentine Shopping Tips for Men
Keeping things lite, fun, and romantic can strengthen your relationship. February is here, and we all know Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. John Thurman Men, please get your shopping done before Feb. 14. If you wait too late, the roses will be wilted, and the selection of cards and chocolates will be pretty much picked over. It seems simple enough, but how many times have we men suffered from […]
10 Ways to Have a Happy Wife
Want to have a happier wife? One of the keys to having a resilient, long-lasting marriage is to do what you can to make sure your wife feels good about your the relationship. As a man, I had no idea how ignorant I was when I first got married! Mom and dad were great examples, but […]
10 Tips for Having a Happy Husband
This is the first part of a four-part series to help you have a meaningful Valentine’s Day. In a couple of days I will publish How to Have a Happy Wife. With all the static about the Gillette commercial and the APA’s discussion about toxic masculinity, I thought this would be a great time to […]
Seven Ways to Have a Happy Husband
Ever wondered if there are any ways to tell if your husband is a happily married man? While every relationship goes through its seasons, here are some proven indicators that your man is happy in your relationship. 1. He knows that he can be himself without being judged or criticized. You see, there is nothing […]
Shades of Intimacy, Love, and Romance
Shades of Intimacy, Love, and Romance Fifty Shades Darker is out, and I am sure millions will flock to see it. The book series took the world by storm, and I am certain the movie series will l do the same. But wait a minute. One of the foundational principles of building and repairing a […]
Shades of Grey or Shades of Love – Be A Better Lover.
(c) 2015 John Thurman Shades of Grey or Shades of Love: How to be a Better Lover John Thurman M.Div., M.A., LPCC It is sometimes tough to love someone else. It is even pretty difficult to love your family. One middle-aged married man told his wife that if she loved him, she would have married […]