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5 Hot Tips for Your Relationships

Marriage and serious relationships are some of the toughest endeavors that any two humans can engage.  When a couple begins their journey they are fueled with hopes and dreams, but within the first year those hopes can sometime lead to despair and dreams to nightmares..  Here are six hot tips that can keep you moving forward.

Tip One – Watch out for Anger
Anger, hurt, frustration, and disappointment can stifle a relationship. Here are three things couple can do to lower anger, frustration. 
1. Don’t let you negative feeling grow with interest.  Express your hurt, fear or frustration as soon as you are aware of it. 
2. If you decide to tell your spouse be sure to share in the language style of your partner.If they are brief in their communication (a condenser) in their style, keep it brief. 
3. Don’t give ultimatums during your talks.  Even if one is to be given, this is not the time of the time or the place, and it reflects control or power struggle. Rarely does it work.

Tip Two – Four Ways to Get Closer to Your Partner 
1. Forgive each other for something that you’ve held on to. 
2. Give up one habit that drives your partner bonkers.  
3 Be generous and grateful.  
4. Have Fun Together.

Tip Three – 7 Things Women and Men can do for each other.
1. See each other as allies, not enemies.  
2. Appreciate each other’s power without being threatened with it.  
3. Value and nurture each other.  
4. Stop seeing each other as stereotypes.  
5. Celebrate the differences and enjoy the commonalities.  
6. Realize everybody had wounds.  
7. Be there for each other.

Tip Four – Hints for a fun Special Days
 
1. Devote 100% of yourself to each other on those special days.  
2. Rent a Honeymoon Suite at a local hotel for things like anniversaries, birthdays and Valentine.  
3. Take a day off from work and enjoy each other.  
4. Buy some cards or postcards and flood your spouse with them.  
5. Bake or buy some heart shaped cookies. 
Guys, flowers and chocolate can really help.  
Girls, when he comes home from work on those special days greet him wearing something red or black like ribbons in your hair.

Tip Five – FOR GUYS – If your marriage seems a little dull, perhaps it’s you! Maybe you’re stuck in your routine.  Maybe you’re too predictable.  Shock you wife! Be unusually creative and totally unpredictable.

John is a Licensed Professional Counselor, with over thirty-five years of counseling experience. He has also been married to his first wife for 42 years. If you need help getting your relationship back on tract contact him today. John provides traditional counseling in an office setting as well as over the phone, and through SKYPE or FACETIME.

© 2014 John Thurman

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