By: John Thurman, M.Div. M.A., LCMHC
Welcome to Part 3 of Revitalize Your Marriage! Great job making it this far! In this final section, we’ll clear up the last three myths that might still be lingering.
We’ll talk about whether a good relationship needs sexual intimacy (spoiler: it does!), whether flaws can ruin a relationship (they won’t!), and if there’s only one “right” way to make your relationship work (there isn’t!). Let’s dive in.
Myth #7: Great relationships don’t need sexual intimacy
Some believe sex isn’t essential in marriage. That’s not true! Sexual intimacy is more than physical—it’s a way to connect emotionally, spiritually, and mentally. It helps partners feel close, relaxed, and loved. Even if life gets busy or stressful, keeping this part alive is essential for a strong marriage. If intimacy fades, it might mean you both need to work on issues together. Simple actions like date nights, exploring each other’s desires, or cuddling can keep things exciting. And always remember: a good hygiene routine makes everything better! If any partner has experienced trauma, seek professional help.
Myth #8: Flaws or quirks can destroy a marriage
Some think the relationship is doomed if their partner has odd habits or quirks. That’s not true! Everyone has unique traits—some more obvious, some hidden. The key is to accept and love each other’s imperfections. We all carry baggage—traumas, insecurities, struggles. As long as their quirks aren’t harmful or abusive, a healthy attitude of patience and love can help you grow together. If behaviors cause real harm, get help from a mental health professional. Remember, life is richer with quirks! Embrace the little things that make your relationship special.
Myth #9: There’s only one correct way to build a great relationship
Nope! While the Bible offers guiding principles—like supporting one another—there’s no single formula for love. Each couple is different. The important thing is to find ways to love and support each other that work for you, regardless of what others say. Be creative and make your path—what matters most is mutual support and kindness.
Congratulations!
You’ve finished Part 3! Take a moment to celebrate your progress. Here’s a quick summary:
- Sexual intimacy is vital—make time for special moments and caring gestures.
- Love your partner’s quirks—they make life joyful!
- There’s no one “right” way to nurture your relationship—trust your path.
Action Steps for this week:
- Plan a fun date night.
- Share a funny or cute story about your quirks.
- Talk openly about ways to grow your intimacy.
Keep laughter, love, and connection alive!
If you need help in this area of your life, contact me.
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