After You Say “I Do” Part #3

After You Say “I Do” 3 of 3 By John Thurman, M.Div., M.A., LPCC I hope you have enjoyed some of the “before and after” comments. Some of these happen to all of us in our relationships. One of my professors used to say, “You date the adult, but you marry the child.” One of […]

The Good, The Bad, The Ugly About Stress # 2

The Good, The Bad, and the Ugly about Stress by John Thurman Stress spelled backwards means desserts. While a slice of Coconut Cream Pie and the Village Inn might give you a little relief from stress, you will probably feel more depressed within a couple of hours after the sugar burns off. With that happy […]

After the “I Do’s” 2 of 3

By John Thurman, M.Div., M.A., LPCC Last week we looked at some of the ways Mr. Wonderful had lost his luster. This week it is the ladies’ turn. By the way, be sure to let yourself laugh a little as we review the before and after scenarios. Before: It is the first time you have […]

The Good,The Bad, and the Ugly about Anxiety 1

The Good, the Bad and the Ugly About Stress and Anxiety By John Thurman You just received a call from you child’s school that you little one has fallen off of the monkey bars and injured her arm and that they have called an ambulance. Immediately your brain goes into the “Fight or Flight” mode.  […]

Are Your Destined to Fail? No!

(c) 2013 John Thurman – Prison cell window,Chateau d’ if – Count of Monte Cristo, Marseille, Fr. Are You Destined to Fail? No! Do you believe that negative events are unchangeable, and you have little or no control over them? If so, you’ve fallen into the “stinking thinking trap” of Always, Always, Always. This mindset […]

After the “I Do’s” – Part 1 of 3

 Marriage is more than a ceremony. Here are some tips to help you along the way to a long-term marriage. By John Thurman, M.Div., M.A., LPCC I want you to think back to the first time you met Mr. or Miss Wonderful.Like most people, you probably felt a rush of excitement when you thought about […]

Revive Your Mind – Quit Blaming

When in Doubt, Project Blame I work with people who have anger management issues. When someone starts a sentence with “My wife…,” “My husband…,” “My boss..,” or “My mama…,” I smile and wait. Then I’ll say, “Wow. So you have absolutely zero control over your emotions? Are you being completely controlled by external circumstances? People, […]

How to Have a Happy Wife # 3

Be More Affectionate   Before we talk about how to express affection to your wife, I want to review the job description of being a good husband. Love, honor, and respect her Be sexually and emotionally faithful to her. Listen without being judgmental Support and nurture her ambitions outside the home Make good faith efforts […]

Renew Your Vision, Revive Your Mind #4

Stop Making it All About YouBy John Thurman You can look at any of the photos of me on this website and see that I am not bald, but am follically challenged. As a matter of fact, my wife says, “You are not bald, you are just a solar powered love machine. Well, isn’t that a unique […]

How to Have a Happy Wife Part 2

This is a photo of our friends Michele and Dotie, a couple that we have known for several years, a couple that loves each other and their kids with a deep and  profound love. In that time we have watched their kids grow into young, emerging adults and have watched Dodie support Michele as she […]