Resilience is the ability to resist the manifestations of clinical distress, impairment or dysfunctions that are often associated with critical incidents and personal trauma. Dr. George Everly, Psychological Body Armor.”Last week Sara got so mad she threw her shoe at me. It missed my head by about three inches!” Larry said.”At the time I thought he […]
Marriage & Relationships
Shades of Grey or Shades of Love – Be A Better Lover.
(c) 2015 John Thurman Shades of Grey or Shades of Love: How to be a Better Lover John Thurman M.Div., M.A., LPCC It is sometimes tough to love someone else. It is even pretty difficult to love your family. One middle-aged married man told his wife that if she loved him, she would have married […]
Shade of Grey-Shades of Love
Shades of Grey rolls out this weekend. The book series took the world by storm, and I am sure the movie will do the same. But wait a minute. One of the foundational principles of building and repairing a relationship is to understand the foundations of intimacy. It is not about technique, positions, or power, […]
Lighten Your Relationship Part 3
Lighten Your Relationship – Part 3 John H. Thurman Jr., M.Div. M.A., LPCC In the past two articles we reviewed the overall benefits of Lightening Up Your Relationships, today, I will give you five proven tips you can use to lighten the load and enjoy the road in your relationship. The benefits of humor and […]
After You Say “I Do” Part #3
After You Say “I Do” 3 of 3 By John Thurman, M.Div., M.A., LPCC I hope you have enjoyed some of the “before and after” comments. Some of these happen to all of us in our relationships. One of my professors used to say, “You date the adult, but you marry the child.” One of […]
After the “I Do’s” 2 of 3
By John Thurman, M.Div., M.A., LPCC Last week we looked at some of the ways Mr. Wonderful had lost his luster. This week it is the ladies’ turn. By the way, be sure to let yourself laugh a little as we review the before and after scenarios. Before: It is the first time you have […]
After the “I Do’s” – Part 1 of 3
Marriage is more than a ceremony. Here are some tips to help you along the way to a long-term marriage. By John Thurman, M.Div., M.A., LPCC I want you to think back to the first time you met Mr. or Miss Wonderful.Like most people, you probably felt a rush of excitement when you thought about […]
How to Have a Happy Wife # 3
Be More Affectionate Before we talk about how to express affection to your wife, I want to review the job description of being a good husband. Love, honor, and respect her Be sexually and emotionally faithful to her. Listen without being judgmental Support and nurture her ambitions outside the home Make good faith efforts […]
How to Have a Happy Wife Part 2
This is a photo of our friends Michele and Dotie, a couple that we have known for several years, a couple that loves each other and their kids with a deep and profound love. In that time we have watched their kids grow into young, emerging adults and have watched Dodie support Michele as she […]
How to Have Happy Wife
Want a happy wife? I have been a married man for over 42 years and after all that time, I still do not pretend that I understand how complex my wife is. While there are several excellent books on the topic, I will mention three that will give guys some tools to help make their […]