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How to Handle Criticism – Abraham Lincoln

During his presidency, Abraham Lincoln was greatly respected and greatly reviled. Blamed for plunging this nation into a civil war, he was the president people loved to hate. Those who opposed his views regarding the war and slavery, as well as his efforts to keep them united, were vocal and uninhibited in denouncing him. One day during one of the darkest periods of his presidency, Lincoln was walking down a street near the Capitol in Washington when an acquaintance caught up with him. As they walked, the man brought up the subject of the growing […]

9 Traits of Resilient People

“Plus estem voius.” Latin for, There is more in you than you know. Ever wondered what you could do to increase your odds of winning the race of life, overcoming personal trauma, or pushing through obstacles that could be holding you back? I believe the key is tapping into the strength that lies within you. That key is resilience. One definition of resilience is the ability to withstand, adapt to, or rebound from, extreme challenges or adversity. I have spent a good part of my life working with clients who have had to deal with […]

Fear and Public Speaking

In a recent survey published in my new book, The No Fear Entrepreneur, I found that of those who completed the project, 64.4% stated that fear of public speaking was one of their primary fears. Why on earth would an individual feel such a deep, gut-wrenching, and sometimes almost incomprehensible fear of public speaking? Before we trivialize this fear, that individual who fears public speaking may fear the loss of identity that attaches to performing poorly, and that is very deeply rooted in our core survival needs. In trying to understand the roots to this […]

Six Steps to Getting Unstuck

  One foot in front of the other All that we have is each other One foot in front of the other Walk the Moon Have you ever felt stuck? You started off the year with new goals and refreshed dreams somewhere along the way you became distracted, bogged down, and may be disengaged. I have experienced seasons like that in my life. It wasn’t like I intended to get stuck or drift off course, but it happened. If this sounds familiar you have only three choices: Live in denial and pretend like everything is […]

Crisis Leadership & Mass Shootings

To me, this image is the most powerful photo from the high school shootings in Florida, a mom, most likely a Roman Catholic who received her ashes earlier in the day is shown both terrified and comforting as she and others attempt to grasp what is unfolding. How many of you asked yourself something like, “What would I do in a situation like that?” Here are some tips that I have learned over the years in my work as an International Crisis Response Specialist. Crisis leadership is more about who you are than what you […]

Seven Ways to Have a Happy Husband

Ever wondered if there are any ways to tell if your husband is a happily married man? While every relationship goes through its seasons, here are some proven indicators that your man is happy in your relationship. 1. He knows that he can be himself without being judged or criticized. You see, there is nothing that can kill a relationship faster than criticism. 2. He feels that you notice him and appreciate all that he does for you and that you do not take him for granted. 3. He realizes that you love and accept […]

A Man’s Guide To Valentine’s Day Shopping

  Want to build a happy, resilient relationship? If you answer is yes, then continue to read. We are into February, and we all know that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. So guys, for heaven’s sake, get your shopping done before Feb. 14. If you wait too late, the roses will be wilted, and the selection of cards and chocolates will be pretty much picked over. It seems simple enough, but how many times have we men suffered from procrastinitis (my word), a condition related to waiting until the last minute to shop […]

Change or Die: Recalibrate or Stagnate Part 2

  What do Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, Taylor Swift, Ed Sheeran, Jamie Fox, and Viola Davis have in common? They reinvented themselves. Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, world-famous wrestler to respected film star. Jamie Foxx started out as a standup comic, turned singer with numerous # 1 Billboard hits and Platinum selling albums not to mention the fact he is an Academy Award winner. Taylor Swift who has made a dynamic and successful shift from being the darling of country music to a dominating pop artist. Viola Davis who was trained at Juilliard in theart of […]

Recalibrate or Stagnate: The Choice is Yours!

How are those New Year’s resolutions going? In the interest of full disclosure, I am at about 60%, which, at least for me is not too bad. The New Year is a time when so many of us consider making some changes in our lives; some people are looking to make some small changes others are looking to recalibrate, to reinvent themselves. On the downside 80% of us will abandon most of those resolutions by mid-February, but what about the 20% that do keep them. So what are some ways to maintain those decisions, to […]

Incoming Missile: The Hawaii Event

  What were you doing when you heard about the incoming missile threat in Hawaii? When I first hear the story, I had three different reactions, all within a couple of minutes. The first was, Oh, my God, North Korea did it! The second was a flashback to my childhood which was in the 50’s, and 60’s when school children were taught to “drop and cover,” by a cute cartoon character Bert the Turtle and his human sidekick. Bert and his sidekick taught children what to do in the event of a nuclear bomb detonation. […]