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1 of 7 Things You Can Do to Push Back Depression

Robin Williams entertaining troops in 2003 Robin Williams’ memory, his acting, his stories and comedy sketches will live on through video clips and the internet. Hopefully, we will take some lessons from the loss of this extraordinary actor, comedian, and exceptional communicator. Depression can be a quiet killer. It is a disorder that is widely experienced and yet few people seek treatment for it.  According to the CDC, suicide is the tenth leading cause of death for all ages in 2010. The CDC report also states that there were 38,364 suicides in the U.S—an average […]

Thoughts about Robin Williams Part #2 

Laughter, Joy, tenderness, and passion are things that come to mind when I think of Robin Williams. Another attribute I admired was his ability to be vulnerable. For years he talked about his struggle with addictions, depression, and open heart surgery. He had struggled a great part of his adult life with a brain disorder which included severe depression, which in many cases co-exists with addictions. Even with treatment, support from friends and family and remarkably successful career, mental illness can still end up killing a person. As a Christ follower, I have been somewhat […]

Thoughts About Robin William’s Life.

My first recollection of the zany comedy of Robin Williams goes all the way back to his guest appearance as Mork on “Happy Days.” Over the years, I followed him mainly through television and then through his movies. I have to admit, I rarely missed his late night appearances on Jay Leno because I knew it was going to be a roller coaster ride.  He did touch millions of lives through his art, his kindness, and the multitude of characters he played throughout his career. There are thousands of tributes to him on the internet. […]

10 Steps for Surving a Rough and Tumble World: Part #3

This is the third and final blog of the 10 steps for Surviving a Rough and Tumble world. Here is a quick review of the first seven. 1. Practice optimism.2. Find a resiliency model.3. Develop a moral compass and unbreakable beliefs.4. Practice generosity and kindness.5. Develop acceptance and cognitive flexibility.6. Face your fears and learn to control negative emotions.7. Build an ever-expanding tool chest of active coping skills to manage stress.    8. Establish and maintain a supportive social network to help you. Dr. George Bonanno’s research, in his book The Other Side of Sadness, points out one of […]

10 Steps for Surviving a Rough and Tumble World: Part # 2

(c) 2014 John Thurman As I begin this installment of 10 Steps, I wanted to let you know that on I will send out the third installment of 10 Steps Thursday evening and the next three to four blogs will be be very focused on depression, and things you can do to help yourself and others get better. Growing up watching  Robin Williams, I am 62 and he was 63, it was very sad to hear about his suicide. While I strongly disagree with how some media outlets went into the gory details of his […]

10 Steps to Surviving a Rough and Tumble World: Part # 1

(c) 2014 John Thurman By John H. Thurman Jr., M.Div., M.A. Adapted from The Survivor’s Guide, by Ben Sherwood Ever wondered what you can do to increase your odds of winning the race of life? Dr. Dennis Charney is the dean of the Mount Sinai School of Medicine in New York. The fifty-eight-year old is the king of resilient studies in North America. In his years of research and collaboration, he has developed what he calls the Resiliency Prescription. Here is a brief outline of it, as well as some scriptures that support his points. 1.  […]

Shades of Grey, Shades of Love: 4 Ways to Cultivate Romance

Sex Begins in the Kitchen is a fun and informative book that my friend Dr. Kevin Leman wrote several years ago. His second book on marital intimacy is called Sheet Music. Both of which are still in print. I encourage couples to add these books to their reading list. Kevin has an uncanny ability to communicate in a clear and fun way about crucial things. Years ago he and I shared the microphone on national radio show called Parent Talk. It seemed that whenever he and I were on the show the topic of sexuality […]

Shades of Grey, Shades of Love – 5 Levels of Intimacy

(c) 2012 istockphotos.com What is intimacy? One definition of intimacy is that it is an act of a familiar expression serving as a token of familiarity, affection, and love. I believe as a culture we have lost some of the important components of intimacy by limiting it to just a physical response.  There has been some breakthrough research that shows which there are at least five different areas of intimacy! Take a moment and grade yourself in each area, and then ask you partner to do the same. The first is intellectual intimacy. On this […]

Shades of Grey, Shades of Love: 10 Skills to Build Up Your Marriage

Shades of Grey or Shades of Love Part 2 John Thurman “It is a luxury to be understood.”      Ralph Waldo Emerson Building a relationship and being married is a team sport; you either win together or lose together. One of the keys to building intimacy is communication. Two-way communication that is based on respect, honor, and grace is essential for two people sharing a life together. Drs. David Olson and Peter Larson have invested their careers studying relationships. They have identified 10 Communication Skills that will enhance your intimacy.1.     Give full attention to your partner […]

Shades of Love or Shades of Grey?

By John Thurman There is a ton of buzz in the media today about Shades of Grey as the movie buzz builds with the release of the movie trailer. The book series took the world by storm, and I am sure the movie will do the same. But wait a minute. One of the foundational principles of building and repairing a relationship is to understand the foundations of intimacy. It is not about technique, positions, or power, but about getting to know someone deeply. Dwight Bain, a long time friend, therapist, and life coach shared […]